Mind: Easily Excluded
Consider these:
How well do you know where you stand?
How well do you know where you belong?
How well do you know your strengths?
How well do you know what you own?
I read a passage this morning that’s made me think beyond the passage. “What they trust in is fragile, what they rely on is a spider’s web” — Job 8:14. Makes me think about my life, what areas do I mistakenly rest the weight of my body, in full expectation that I would be balanced and my full weight would be supported? Where do I harbor false hope? Where do I continue to harbor false hopes? How many false hopes are there? Haha
What is something you rely on, something you build on, something you’re certain about — that isn’t rooted?
My attempt to understand the passage springs up the topic of False sense of security — which would mean to rely wholeheartedly on something secured that isn’t secure. To feel safe on a risky basis. To think solid on a shaky platform. Fake confidence? is that a thing or is it simply called Arrogance?
This could morph into:
False Sense of Prosperity: Thinking credit card available balance is “your money”. Thinking expected, projected, future income is money you can spend in real time. There are many “rich people” who have more debt than wealth, more liability than assets, more red balance sheets than net worth.
False Sense of Ownership — mortgaging a house but saying you “own” the house, instead of seeing it for what it really is, glorified renting with more chance of owing and less chance of owning. Financing a car yet convinced you own the car, until a payment is missed then another payment, there goes a tow truck leaving your driveway.
False Sense of Becoming: Your mind play tricks on you. Your mouth sign you up for a weight class you cannot live up to. You read one book and think you’re a Genie. To think oneself more elevated, elegant than the person is developed to be. The mind assuming a level of personal growth, that the person has yet to develop.
False Sense of Belonging: Thinking you’re part of a group but not really. Thinking these are your new friends when they are the friends, you are just the person they use to meet their objectives. Have you been tolerated, easily excluded, often exempted? You want to belong with a sect but not quite.
A second look at the passage shows trust should be given to substance and worth not fragility and frail. Rely on a weight supporter, if someone cannot support you, a person destined to break and/or fall apart at the first sign of distress, how would you rely on them? This makes so much sense, I’m amazed. Conversation about trust becomes less of whether I can trust but more of can you support the weight of my trust?
Life is intermingling. We interweave our life with others and different people have different strengths. There are some people though who just cannot be there for anybody else, you will find these are sometimes the type of people that expect everything from others, giving almost nothing in return.
Why rely on someone who cannot support the weight of your destiny/calling/vision/need/want/future? Imagine a Pastor married to an aspiring stripper. Imagine a President married to an aspiring nightcrawler or camgirl. Doesn’t look too good on their career path, even though the position of office comes after the decision of choosing a spouse.
Where are you headed, and who can come with you?
To rely on a spider’s web is disaster soon to materialize. When the wind blows, a lot of people are moved. Literally, strong winds shift those not rooted. Figuratively — financial, emotional, societal, political winds toss those who are not firm in mind. Shifting them in whichever direction is pleasing to the person controlling the wind-blower.
Be rooted. On solid ground. Stand. Principles will root you. Good and True people will ground you. The quote from Job will clarify things for you.
Improve self, all around. Aspire to a place where you want your job but don’t need your job. It is not easy to do, the sacrifice to reach this stage isn’t the preferred circumstance to subject yourself to — but this is a place of better comfort, eventually. A place of real comfort.
Be strong in mind. Identify components that let air out of your happy balloon, and fix those. However strong you have to be, whatever new habits you have to learn, whichever covent you have to drag yourself to, wherever monastery you have to go shave your head, learn to work as one with your mind to accomplish great, mighty and positive results.
It makes sense why those of old would say “look up to the hills where your help comes from”, for thousands of years it has not been wise to have a false sense of reliance on your fellow human. There are good people in society. There sure are those who would sincerely welcome you into their community. True belonging. Right association. When people welcome you in to a group that invites your best self, take the opportunity to truly grow.
Don’t give good people reason to regret being good to you.
When you look in society and identify the many ways humans confine other humans, do your very best to not sign up for confinement, no matter how attractive the commercials are, no matter how endearing the word of mouth advertisement gets. Escape.
A false sense of anything is to be delusional. You would have no one else to blame but yourself for a lack of foresight and a lack of strength to separate yourself from results that are not yours. Don’t go chasing what is determined to avoid you. Don’t go chasing who is determined to exclude you.
It is healthy to trust but it is detrimental to place trust on something fragile. Don’t put all your weight on a spider’s web. Common sense, ain’t it? yet we do it everyday, so how common is the sense?
When that fragile thing breaks, like a glass table, every trust placed on it will shatter, leaving you in pain. But who do you blame?
Trust not in horses, trust not in chariots, trust not in fragility.
Trust in the one who has your back and supports your better self.
With Love,
Famous Steve.
